Solitaire Engagement Rings Don’t Have to Be Diamonds

The prettiest engagement rings are solitaire rings with one big stone in the center. But who says that the stone in the center has to be a diamond. You will also see rings that look like they feature one big stone, but in reality a cluster of tiny stones creates the sparkle together.  Look carefully as a big stone is not always a whole gemstone.

Sometimes the center stone in a solitaire ring is set a little higher than the ring in a clawed setting that resembles a cradle for the stone and sometimes it is embedded right into the band.

However, the main stone in the solitaire engagement ring does not have to be a diamond. The very old traditional route is to contrast diamonds (as either the flanking stones or center stone) with other valuable gems such as emeralds, citrines, topazes garnets rubies or sapphires. You can also buy an engagement ring that has a birthstone. It is also nice to just have a central stone that is a favorite color or that matches your eyes or hair. For instance, a sapphire might look great as a center stone in a ring for a woman with blue eyes.

A pave setting is one that features a row of  five to nine glittering stones either raised or embedded into band. Common combinations are sapphires and diamonds, rubies and diamonds and emerald and diamonds.  One benefit to buying this kind of ring is that it can serve either as a wedding band or an engagement band.

Although the ancient belief is that diamonds were fired in the flames of love they are actually fired in the flames of the earth’s crust where they are compressed until they create unique four-sided crystal that is harder than anything on earth. It is most likely that the diamond you find in today’s stores is mined in South Africa, but for years India and Brazil were the principle providers of diamonds.  Diamond stores have also recently been found in the Yukon.

The brilliance of diamonds is accounted for by the stone’s high reflective index, which is 2.42.  This is many times higher than a rhinestone, which is only 1.6.  The ability of a diamond to sparkle is also depended on how the stone is hewn by the diamond cutter.

If you already have a ring that you have inherited fro you grandmother, it is quite easy to go to jeweler and have its look updated or completely create a new ring for your fiancée.  Sometimes stones can be removed from old rings and set into a completely new design.


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Dealing With Panic After a Break Up

How do you deal with those very real feelings of panic after a break up?

First off you have to ask yourself how you might feel tomorrow if you do something like sneak onto your ex’s Facebook or phoning him late at night to see if he is home. You need to weigh out how bad you are going to feel and how bad you are going to look to him if you spill out a bunch of emotion.

People lose self-control after a break up because they feel like they have lost control over the other person. Women, especially can feel that they have lost control over their entire lives. Even if they were not that happy in the relationship they at least knew what was happening next.  They would make up with the guy after a fight and then he would cheat or do whatever split them up in the first place. For women, especially, a break up means a loss of identity that is difficult to deal with.

The result is feeling like you must do something immediate and drastic to combat that feeling of being completely out of control.  This is why people become compulsive and drunk-dial their ex or become irrational in the days following the break up. They feel like if they do not do something about the situation right this minute they will lose the person.

Before you can do anything to save the relationship you have to get a grip and become a rational human being again. This may not happen in a couple of minutes or even a couple of nights.

In fact, the average time that couples need to recover from a bad split is about six weeks. That is how long it can take you to feel sane again.

You are broken up with your relationship anyway so why not take a real break from it. Use the split as a chance to recover from it emotionally. Taking a break from it means staying away from your ex. Do not call, email, stop by or hang out where you think he or she will. The sooner you stop compulsively trying to get your ex back, the sooner you will be able to recover and eventually regain the relationship.

That’s right. You have to avoid the relationship (for now) to save the relationship. Think of it like pruning a rose so it can grow back bigger and stronger later.


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