More Tips for Starting Conversations With Men

Today’s blog is a continuation of the last one which was all about how to meet men.  Yes, it is all about “lines” and getting him to buy you a drink or even buying him a drunk.

 

A line that also might work operates on the pretense that you have been sent over to meet him by one of his good friends.  Simply approach the male, gesture to one of his companions and say, “Your friend there says that you and I should link up. He says we have a lot in common,” This doesn’t have to be true. Even if his friend denies it later, it will still make him laugh.

 

Another approach is the “fake out.”  This is where you stand close to the man you are really interested in, point to some guy in the bar and say “Do you mind if I stand here for a while?  That jerk over there keeps trying to pick me up and I am definitely not interested.”  Usually the man says “Of course.”  Your next line should be “So what’s your name anyway?” and the conversation should flow as easily from there.

 

Another tact you can use it to offer to buy the guy a drink.  This is best done with a cigar hanging out of your mouth.  Don’t light it if you are prone to nausea. If he asks you why, tell him that you are pretending to be a man tonight, just to see how hard it is for men to meet people.

 

You should also not overlook the most obvious form of greeting which is a simple “Hi.” Follow this up with a warm, bright smile that is meant only for him.   This usually works about 50% of the time, but because there are no mind games involved, the response you get is usually a “hi” back.  Once that is accomplished try following that up with the obvious “how are you?”   Hopefully the conversation will lead to something other than “I’m fine” and then the long cold stony silence. When in doubt, making a reference to some kind of current event such as “How about that tornado in Kansas?” is also a good opener for a conversation.

 

Of course if you are totally daunted and your knees start quaking at the very thought of even saying “hi” to a man, you can always cop out and be quiet.  The Great Non Verbal Cop Out apparently is very attractive to men who appreciate the elements of mystery, espionage and strategy that are involved in such a maneuver.  It makes you seem very mysterious.  Just give him your number on a matchbook, go away and hope he calls!

Tips for Starting Conversations With Men

 

If you have always wanted to walk up to a man and say hello, but have never had the confidence or self-esteem to before, then here are some good ideas.

 

The best way to introduce yourself is to simply wheedle your way up to where he is standing and say something like “so what do you think of the band?”  Actually it is even better to make it less general than that and say something like “Did you get a load of that base player’s long fingernails?”  Adding a touch of humor to your observations about where you are always helps break the ice.

 

Although they seem like stern forbidding creatures, most men can’t resist responding to a compliment about their clothes. Of course, don’t risk complimenting a man on something that looks kind of shoddy as in “nice comb over job with the hair, pal!”  Try making a nice remark about his cotton shirt, his shoes or even his cigarette lighter or cell phone.  Remember too, that your remarks should be tailored to what appeals to the masculine among us. Try a more flirtatious remark such as “I bet that rough stubble on chin feels a bit itchy” may not go amiss either.

 

Another icebreaker is to change the age-old rules and offer to light his cigarette for him. Most men are usually pleased to allow the lady to offer them this little indulgence. If he is not that type, then usually a spirited conversation usually follows this attempt any way!

 

Now this one is a bit dishonest, but I believe it has a great success rate. Try the old “don’t I know you from somewhere” line except twist it a bit to be phrased like “Hey how you doing! Did you enjoy the soccer game!”?  Then when he reveals he wasn’t there, go “oops” and say, “You mean you aren’t the guy that tripped me?” Then introduce yourself.  A sporting event is always a good choice because it makes him think that the two of you share compatible interests. Drama Queens could also try throwing a drink on the guy and then exclaiming “Ooops! “I thought you were someone else.”  Then you have a great opportunity not only to talk with him but also dab his body thoroughly with a cloth.

 

Another line that men seem to like is “You seem like a challenge.”  This makes them feel all brave and daring, like the Count of Monte Cristo. This is a good follow up line if you do say hi to a man you think is interested but then he just looks at you and doesn’t respond. At the very least, that kind of line makes the laugh, but most of them can barely conceal their broad smile at being perceived as a rebel and loner.

 

Remember you are a reflection of him and you must be the most flattering depiction possible.